Collaboration or Competition?

It amazes me at nearly 40 that competition is rife among women. All my life I have had people try to bring me down just because I was good at something or successful in my area of work. I really don’t need anyone else trying to sabotage my success as I do a pretty good job of that myself😊

I am someone who has always been content with second place or being the one to help others shine, hiding behind the scenes and the success of others and their businesses. I started to think….why is this? And for me it comes down to one thing….being truly happy & humble in my own skin. No need for jealousy or competition only my own competitiveness and personal expectations.

That’s why when I love collaborating with other women. I recognise my own strengths and I recognise and admire theirs. Bringing a group of women together from a range of modalities shows people that we see them as individuals and no one size fits all; working together all to achieve a common goal.

Holistic health & healing practices are changing the shape and view of how we see ourselves and others. Today there are hundreds of modalities that are available to everyone🦋

I believe that jealousy and competitiveness is something that you are longing for within yourself. We have all been given a face/body/skills/gifts/personalities that we have to learn to love. Gratitude is one way to achieve this.

Love & give to yourself and start to see the world through different eyes. No more competition or jealousy, but admiration & inspiration

A few strands of hair saved my sanity

When our daughter was around 10 weeks old I had to ring the ambulance for the first time as her breathing had changed. The second time she was visibly in distress and using all her accessory muscles to breathe. A very scary sight for any parent. There were no answers for the stridor (inflammation of the airway), possible explanations that could only be identified through invasive tests. I knew in my heart it was something that I was eating that was causing these episodes as she was solely breast fed at this stage…I will leave the guilt story for another time. I cut out foods and was on constant alert waiting for the next reaction and there were several. Skin prick tests identified nothing and it was then at the age of around 6 months old that I discovered Allergenics and hair analysis. They only thing they needed to test was a small amount of hair and I had a baby who already had pigtailsJ

The result – high levels of candida and a list of food intolerances. A change of diet on my behalf and a probiotic to treat the candida and to this day our girl is thriving.

Not only did this identify the problem but it saved my sanity. Any parent with a child who has intolerances or allergies knows the stress that goes along with meal times, food planning or eating away from home.

Unfortunately, Allergenics couldn’t be a part of our event but have kindly contributed to our goodie bags.

One of the reasons I created the Health, Healing & Happiness Event is to inform people of the options that are available out there.

For more information please Visit @Allergenics or www.allergenics.com

The challenges of raising an Empathetic child:)

So this post is going to be a bit more personal….maybe even a little bit of a vent!

My daughter had a nightmare on Wednesday night. We have had a few over the years, night terrors under 2 consistently. She woke sweating and terrified but wouldn’t/couldn’t tell me what was wrong. She wanted to go to the couch to sleep and even the change of room left her scared to close her eyes in case she had the same dream:(

When she got home the next day I was determined to find out what the dream was about so I could try and help her understand it. She told me that the red wolf was eating her! On Wednesday at Kindy she was shown a mindfulness clip about a red and blue wolf…the red one being the angry one.

I spoke to her teachers today who were very understanding. As I spoke to them I was reminded that and this will be an on-going challenge of being a parent to an empathic child.

I have realised that this is just going to be a taste of when she goes to school in 6 months and she will then be subjected to behavior, words, and actions that I have protected her from up to this point in her life. It makes me sad and even a bit angry, but that’s life.

I guess that’s when I have to trust that we as parents have done enough for her to make her own choices, stand up for herself when she needs to and not be led by the majority.

Every age of raising a child has its challenges; this is just another one of them.

My biggest lesson here…..open 2 way communication. As long as our daughter always feels that she can talk to us, then she can feel and release her emotions…..something her Mummy always struggled with as a child.

Hope that wasn’t too heavy for a Friday night!!

Happy weekend:)

P.S. I LOVE YOU

I met with a friend on Friday who reminded me of how important it is not to shy away from my gifts and who I can help in the process. It was the kick in the bum I needed to get me out of “safe zone” and start to share a bit more of my story.

My life has been surrounded by grief from the young age of 11 when I lost my best friend to cancer. I have experienced grief in all its forms, not just the physical loss of someone or something. It is through my experiences that I have developed the unique ability to hold the space for someone to work through their grief…..to feel what needs to be felt while feeling supported, loved and safe.

Grief doesn’t discriminate and can make us question everything there is about our being and our purpose. For 25 years I have been searching and trying to make sense of my grief, being open to anything and everything that fuelled my thirst for knowledge to try and understand this crazy world.

Grief has no timeframe. It is an individual process and when we hide what it is we are truly feeling, it can show up in your life in ways such as repeated patterns of bad relationships, poor career choice, procrastination, people pleasing and always questioning why me?

My message is not going to give you a magic cure, quick fix mediation or 7 step plan to heal your grief. Like I said, it took 25 years to sort my shit out. What I want you to do is just acknowledge it for what it is. Ask yourself, what is it that I really need right now to nourish me, not because that’s what I think people want me to do or what is expected, but what I truly need. Maybe it means to cry, read a self-help book, eat a bar of chocolate (King Size) or just sit in silence. No right or wrong here, just a personal process.

What people need to be able to do is talk openly about their feelings without judgement. It is in my experience that people want and need to talk about it, that is part of the healing process. Closing off or hiding emotions will only provide temporary relief, if that and a sure way of fueling anxiety and depression. Let’s celebrate those who have past and share our experiences. This way, others can take comfort in the fact that they are not alone with how they are feeling and dive deeper into their personal beliefs not those that we have been conditioned with.

There’s so much judgement on what we should grieve over. I can tell you that one of my biggest losses was my cat! I grieved for that cat more than most people that have passed. Call me the crazy cat lady but the connection was so strong and when she died part of me went with her. It’s not about the “what” or the “who” but that connection that is no longer there in a physical sense that causes us pain.

The fact is, at some point in our lives we will experience grief or are still experiencing it and don’t know how to move forward. Allow yourself to feel, express your emotions and love all those around you…that includes yourself! Tell people you love them, even your friends. You could be pleasantly surprised by their reaction. Just be you and show yourself as much compassion and love that you do so easily for others:)